Whatever it is, if there is no joy in love, chances are it is not true love. If you cry all the time and if you also make the person you love cry, ini bukan cinta, ini namanya cilaka. Love is when sama-sama take the responsibility to maintain the relationship and bring joy to the beloved person. To be able to give joy, you must practice looking towards the person you love deeply. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly. You must practice deep looking in order to gain a good understanding of this person in order to be able to help him or her to change. And if you are able to look at the person's good and bad qualities day in and day out and still want to be with them, then it is true love..:)
I was browsing the internet when this poem caught my eyes...
If you can't keep your eyes off of her, then it is not love, it is LUST.
If you are so eager to show her off to your friends, then it is not love, it is LUCK.
If you need her around because you know she's there,then it is not love, it is LONELINESS.
If you with her because she kissed you, then its is not love, it is LOW CONFIDENCE.
If you stay because you don't want to hurt her, then it is not love, it is PITY.
If you belong to her because the sight of her makes your heart skip a beat and your adrenalin pumped to the highest, then it is not love, it is INFACTUATION.
If you pardon her faults because you care about her, then it is not love, it is FRIENDSHIP.
If you tell her every day she is the only one you think of then it is not love, it is a LIE.
If you willing to give up all of your favorite things for her, then it is not love, it is CHARITY.
Does your heart ache and breaks when she's sad?
Do you cry for her pain, even when she's strong?
Do her eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Do you accept her faults because it's a part of who she is?
Are you attracted to others, but stay with her faithfully without regret?
Would you give her your heart, your life, your death?
Then it is LOVE.
I have had a bad realtionship history and I don't feel like explaining how bad it was. Not yet.
However I have to say this - that I used to date a psycho-moron asshole. I'm not sure if I was too stupid to see his wrong or I was blind to the attention he gave me.